should i go traveling with my ex?

Question

iv got the chance to take a gap year now and go travelin for 8 months around the world. the catch is, i would be going with my ex boyfriend who has still got feelings for me, iv also just gotten out of a serious relationship with someone else. it would also mean takin a year off during the middle of my A levels. should i go now, or finish college and go next year? what if next year i dont have anyone to go with..

Answer 1

Meh, I wouldn't go with the ex if he still has feelings for you. It's bad enough things getting awkward without being stuck with him in the middle of nowhere. This should be the trip of a lifetime and you don't want your memories of it being soured by someone sulking or acting like an idiot.



Finish college and go next year. You can't stop a course halfway through, the syllabus could change and even if it doesn't you'll have forgotten everything you just learned and why make it hard for yourself?



It may be that going alone would be the best thing you ever did. You'd meet so many new people from all countries and become self-reliant and confident. But if the thought really does scare you then there are organisations which allow you to e.g. do volunteer work in India for four months and then travel for two months - if you signed up for something like that then you'd be going in a group with others who are doing the same thing.



If you have your heart set on travelling with just you and one other, start putting feelers out among your friends and family etc to see if there is anyone else who would be up for it. Lots of people take gap years before starting Uni so I am sure you wouldn't need to go alone unless you are very very fussy about the company you keep.



Waiting a year would give you the chance to save more money which will widen your options. And there are advantages to being eighteen when you travel, too.

Answer 2

No, he's still got feelings for you.so if you go,he'll think that you'll want to get back together with him. Wait til your A-levels are over and then go. If you can't find someone else to go with, go by yourself, if you go by yourself you wont have any restrictions and wont have to worry about anyone but yourself.